I wanted to breastfeed Kenna for two main reasons:
- It’s just cheaper than formula.
- I wanted that classic mother-newborn bond with my baby and somehow was under the illusion this was the only way to get it.
Here’s what I discovered:
- Breastfeeding is hard work those first few months. It hurts, it’s time consuming, and it’s easy to feel you are insufficient and neglecting your baby. It’s certainly not easier than formula.
- Breastfeeding wasn’t what helped me develop a bond with my baby. Time was. Relationship was. Snuggling was.
In fact, the early days saw me very frustrated and angry with Kenna due to breastfeeding. It was wrong of me to feel that way, I know that now. Three months later, it was taking 10 minutes per feed to the 45-60 minutes as a newborn. My nipples were no longer cracked and covered in blisters, I no longer had mastitis, and I was able to nurse my daughter with out curling my toes.
“Breastfeed! It’s Natural”
One of the things that bothers me most is when people call breastfeeding “natural.” As if every woman on the planet suddenly becomes a guru in the art of feeding a small human (with an even smaller mouth) as soon as they become a mother. It’s tough to get it right; there’s a reason each birthing unit has a resident Lactation Consultant on staff.
It was hard to keep going, but I never entertained throwing in the towel. Luckily for us, the issue was never under-supply, and I wasn’t forced or shamed into abandoning my breastfeeding journey. Some moms I’ve talked to feel this way, whether it’s by their own self-judgement or outside negative feedback.
My personal motto is “Fed is Best.” We should lift up moms who are unable to breastfeed. They deserve just as much love and support as the rest of us. We’re all parents, and we all want and do what’s best for our children.
Until next time,