Parenting. Boy, that’s almost like a bad word these days; it’s cringe-worthy. It conjures up images of the dirty looks you get while baby-wearing in Walmart, the negative comments you get online when you ask for advice about interval-based sleep training, the constant guilt society makes you feel if you don’t breastfeed, the sideways glances you get when breastfeeding in public.
Here’s the scoop, and I believe this with my whole heart.
As it stands, motherhood is a sort of wilderness through which each woman hacks her way, part martyr, part pioneer; a turn of events from which some women derive feelings of heroism, while others experience a sense of exile from the world they knew.
– Rachel Cusk
- First, you are a parent, and you are enough. You are enough for your children. Whatever you choose to do for feeding for the first year, or beyond, or less than a year? That’s what’s right for you. If you choose to bed-share? Obviously, do so safely to the best of your parental ability, but go for it! Stop worrying about what other people think and just be the best mom (or dad) you can be for your children. No one knows your family as well as YOU.
- Second, try your best not to judge other moms. We are judgmental creatures by nature, I get that; I’m guilty of it, too! But being a decent human being means keeping things to ourselves* and choosing instead to lift up and support those around us. We all struggle with some area of parenting, not one of us is perfect.
*I’m obviously not saying you shouldn’t speak out against injustice and cruelty, but use your best judgement, here.
In some following posts I’ll discuss how we chose or fell into certain parenting techniques for our first child, Kenna.
Until next time,